Sex and Money
Posted by Frugal on 28th September 2007
I just opened a bank and brokerage account last week. The banker that helped me opening the account was a young female. Because my wife and I had to take our young toddler with us to the bank, the account opening process was not very smooth. My kid was crying and wanting to leave the bank. So my wife and I were kind of rotating for babysitting throughout the entire process.
As with most of our accounts, I almost always open them in my wife’s name only, simply for additional financial security for my wife’s benefit. Because we also opened a brokerage account, we also had to disclose our total and liquid net worth as part of the standard questions for application process. I did not sense anything since I was busy calming my young toddler outside of the bank half of the time. But my wife later told me that she didn’t feel the due respect from the banker, and when she asked for a candy from the banker for calming the child, the female banker told her that “NO, it will only make the kid more hyper.”
I never heard any banker instructing clients on how to treat their children. I certainly think that it was simply not appropriate nor respectful. But I can see that it is just another example of competition among the same sex. Yeah, my wife doesn’t know many of the financial terminologies or the in and out of the the brokerage accounts because she spent most of her time taking care of our kids. So she must have asked several stupid questions. But what does it matter?
Certainly the people of same sex, especially for those who are closer in age, tend to have more competition whether consciously or sub-consciously. People will compete in all kinds of things, whether it’s personal appearance, cars, money, even kids’ school grades, or just social and financial status in general. But if you spend more time on actually doing things to improve yourself, rather than spending time on non-constructive activities, everything will come out much better.
I have always believed in simply competing against oneself, and never bothered about much of the office talk on cars, promotions, or anything related to other people’s money. I believe in everyone’s inherently innate value, and it is simply not right to compare people on an absolute basis.
Despite on whatever I believe in, the fact is that for most people, opposite sex attracts, while same sex competes. I guess next time, I shall use a male banker instead for my wife’s account.
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